Mind Practices That Will Energize (energy management series 4/8 )

Being in touch with the practices you can do to maintain a healthy mindset and manage your energy will be personal to each person.  If you do not know where to start, you may want to experiment with many different experiences and see which ones work best. 

Here are some practices to test to foster a healthy mindset and maintain high energy levels:

1. Prioritize.  Greg McKeown, Author of Essentialism says, “You can do anything but not everything.”  What are your top 3 priorities right now, and for how long?  When you have too many priorities, it is a paradox of choice, and you can easily get overwhelmed by what you have to do and not know where to start.  Similarly, if you do not know your priorities, you will continue to expend energy on discovery rather than execution.  Those who are laser-focused on 3 priorities can harness their best energy to move the needle, see progress, and feel good about their actions, and that sequence becomes a reinforcing cycle. 

2. Plan.  When you plan your day, you can ensure your time is spent well rather than mindlessly moving.  There are ways you can work better and smarter.  For example, many people find creating a “tomorrow list” helpful.  The night before, you list the first 3 things you will do in the morning and allocate time to each item.  Even if you do not finish the task, you know you have put in the desired 30 mins. or so on each item, which will help you feel better.  Also, you will start your day with intention and not just waste time figuring out what to do.  The idea is to do more energy management over time management.

In planning your day building in margin or white space is vital, so you are not back-to-back and have no time for those deliberate moments.  These gaps or pauses help us avoid careless mistakes, such as hitting “reply all” when we want to send a direct message to the sender.    White space also helps with transitions from one task to another, and to allow for any potential emergencies or delays that might arise.  These margins restore our energy, they are like gas for our car that will enable us to go the distance, they help us think ahead so we are not running out of stamps when we have to mail a letter. When you have that buffer time, you can regenerate and recharge.  Without this, we live a life of perpetual time famine and rob ourselves of more meaningful and excellent work.  For a deeper dive into planning and prioritizing, you can check out my series on this topic.

3. Give gratitude.  It is powerful to keep a gratitude journal to capture those aspects you are happy about, however small, such as sleeping late, playing with your pet, working on your hobby, and going for long walks.  These activities have the effect of spreading more positivity and contributing to more productivity. Small habits of 2-minute praises or sending emails letting others know they did a great job can make somebody else feel great and be an energy-affirming experience for you.

4. Practice reflection.  What space do you take to look back to consolidate the learnings, and be intentional about going forward differently and better?  How do you like to pause from the mayhem, rise above the day-to-day and see more of the macro trends of your life to see if it is going in your preferred direction?  Planning, setting goals, reviewing them, understanding what worked and what did not, and deducing patterns is an energy-building experience because you can derive meaning from your activities and not have a Groundhog Day feeling where the days blur into each other with no interesting or unique moments.  When you aim to identify your best practices for pausing daily, weekly, monthly, and quarterly, it can make a positive difference in your life.  

5. Create time for mind wandering.  David Rock from the NeuroLeadership Institute talks about the benefits of mind-wandering.  It is time for insights or creative breakthroughs, moments to process the past, anticipate the future, and make connections between experiences.  But mind-wandering can only happen when our brain is at rest and not goal-focused.  Not all downtime activities are conducive to mind-wandering, such as anything goal-focused or that involves multitasking like binge-watching Netflix, listening to a podcast while cooking, social media scrolling, driving while listening to music, and walking with your child, since your attention is also focused on keeping your child safe.  Examples of activities favorable to mind-wandering could be anything NOT goal-focused and only involves one task.  Taking a shower/bubble bath, walking in nature (and not listening to anything), staring at the window, doing the dishes, and doodling. The activities where you are not trying to solve anything can help your mind find the signal among the noise.   The ideal amount of time is 15 minutes a day.  The activities will differ for each person, so it is helpful to identify your preference.   

6. Allocate time for inspiration.  What do you do to stay creative and vitalized in life?  How do you like to think, wonder, and fuel your curiosity?  Are you reading in your field so you know the latest research and trends?  Because our jobs are complex, it can keep us task-focused but when we dedicate time to building our creative capacities, we can be more energized and happier and perform at higher levels with less stress.  What are your favorite ways to wonder, imagine, and get more curious?   You may be intentional about building your curiosity and create 5 questions and ask 1-2 at your next event.  Just writing them down builds that muscle.  Maybe on your next bike ride in the mountains, you spend time in the zone where you visualize, dream, and imagine your best self.  How do you nurture your passions and connect them to your creativity in your personal and professional life?

7. Time for flow states.  Flow, coined by Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi, is an experience that contributes to a happy and fulfilling life.  It is achieved when we fully immerse ourselves in an activity where the challenge level is just beyond our abilities.  We temporarily lose our sense of self and time.  Athletes have this feeling when playing sports and in the zone.  People may find flow states when cooking, running, gardening, or any activity that has seized their attention entirely and are fully present.  Organizational psychologist Adam Grant mentions one of the best predictors of happiness is having many flow moments.  So it is important to view work as stretching your skills and heightening your resolve rather than exhausting you. 

8. Carve out time for introspection and inner work.  This is some of the most important work we can do as a human and is a great form of self-care.  So many people spend their energy on “outer work” where they generate value outside themselves (going to meetings, analyzing data, taking care of customers, presenting, and partnering with others to complete projects).  If you want to be centered, less frazzled by change and ambiguity, and more in tune with your values, doing inner work is helpful.  This is mindful, conscious effort that we put into organizing and designing our lives.  It is the work dedicated to raising your awareness and organizing your mind to be healthy.  Marcus Aurelius said, “Tranquility is nothing else than the good ordering of your mind.”  When you better understand your mind, you can move towards a more fulfilled and energized life.  Looking inward to explore who we are, and who we want to be, and defining the contribution we want to make to the world is priceless.  Create the time to think about the big rocks and long-term planning, otherwise, you bounce from one pebble to another, staying small and missing the bigger and more critical mark. 

9. Time for learning, growth, and mastery.  It is a fundamental need to feel like we are getting better at those things that matter to us.  When we intentionally set goals and achieve them, we feel better. Progress, whether a significant accomplishment or a small win, fuels our daily motivation.

10. Mindfulness practice.  Mindfulness is about paying attention on purpose and being present.   It is easier said than done, considering that, on average, people are checking email, plugged in constantly, and switching tasks every 10 minutes.  This time confetti takes meaningful moments, shreds them into useless pieces and is the enemy of excellence.  How do you take time throughout the day to take deep breaths, get grounded, and put things into perspective?  Mindfulness supports positive development because when we can empty our minds, and get curious about labeling the things that are triggering us and how we want to handle them, that can be a profoundly healing experience.  Also, expanding our perspective can give us a more flexible sense of self.  Stephen Covey says, if you want to be able to produce, you have to focus on the capacity to produce, and protect that intentional time.

11. Take breaks.  Many people believe that they have to go a million miles per hour and be productive all the time to be the best, but it is during those off periods when you are filling your battery and can go the distance.  Research shows that once you get to 50-55 hours of work per week, you do not get any more productive.  And to maintain the most intense focus is usually around up to 2 hours, after that, our performance drops, and we get less return on our effort.  Taking a short break helps recharge our energy levels, and then we can pivot back to intensity. It is the “go slow to go fast” concept, like going for a bike ride on tires that are half filled will make you work so much harder than if you just chose to stop briefly to fill your tires and then can peddle more easily and work smarter.

When we convince ourselves that there is no limit to how much we push ourselves, we operate sub-optimally.  In the 1960s, Derek Clayton, worked harder than most as a marathon runner.  He would run 160 miles per week, eventually leading to an injury.  So, in 1967 when he started preparing for the Olympics, he took a month off to recover, he planned to run it as a preparation for the next race.  After an entire month of no training, he broke his previous record by 8 minutes and became the first person to achieve a sub 2 hours and 10 minutes, which would stand for 12 years.  Recovering energy is as important as expending it, and top performers know how to fill up on the proper fuel so they can go the distance and they also know how to sprint where they go intense briefly and then rest because that speed cannot be sustained.  The muscles need time to rebuild.

The story highlights the importance of rest and recovery.  For athletes, it is a clear sign to take a break when their body is aching.  But for knowledge workers, when we are feeling emotional or psychological harm (lethargy, anxiety, or depression), it is a sign to recover.  These signals can be more subtle and easier to discount so we power through tough times when our mind and heart are pleading to take a break.   Painful emotions are the body’s natural warning system, and when we disregard them, we put ourselves in peril.  The most creative artists and scientists who are productive are only working 4 to 6 hours a day, they do other things like go on long walks, fish, and play instruments.  Where does your recovery time show up in your calendar?  How do you listen to music, spend time with friends, enjoy quiet meals, and take walks to restore?  Hard work also takes an enormous toll on your life, especially at the expense of other activities.

Take various recharge breaks.  Rest is when you are not depleting energy; recharge is when you are actively filling your tank.  It is important to know yourself and uncover what recharges you.  This will vary, if you are an extravert, socializing or having conversations in a group with others can recharge.  As an introvert, that can be depleting, rather a recharge for you might be a one-on-one experience.  You want to discover those activities that ignite you. Quilting, working with your hands, gardening, organizing, making art, painting, or anything that makes you feel alive.  And if you do not know, it is ok, you can go on a quest for discovery.  Take a month and commit to having as many conversations as possible to learn about what works for others.  You can also take your time to try several things to see what works for you.

It is important to take different types of breaks that will energize:

·      The 15 min. break scattered throughout your day to boost your energy. 

·      The mid-level recovery break, which is about having great sleep, and taking one day off a week which can make some people even more productive. 

·      Macro level recovery break is about taking vacations that span a week to a month off a year.  Relaxing is the best thing we can do because we get our best ideas when we create space.  JP Morgan said I could do a year’s work in 9 months but not 12.

Having various breaks does not mean we cannot cope with difficult and intense periods when required.

In an interview, Lynn Manuel Miranda talks about how the best idea he had to make Hamilton occurred when he was on vacation, in a pool floating with a margarita.  It was the moment when his brain could completely unplug from the day-to-day concerns so he could let his mind drift.  Daydreaming is fertile ground for spurring creativity.

Get clear on who you want to be on vacation and what emails you will answer, if any.  For some, they want to completely disconnect and be on a beach.  Others who are not wired that way, may find that spending 10% of their vacation working adds fulfillment to their life and enhances the vacation experience rather than fully relaxing 100%.  This is especially true for entrepreneurs who are in love with their work.   You should not just do what works for another but understand what works for you and be mindful not to do any stressful work because it would negate your recharge time. 

12. Identify your downtown desires.  Some people need help figuring out their leisure time.  They take time off, feel weird or uneasy and then settle back into something more comfortable and familiar like work, spreadsheets, and emails.  High achievers are attracted to work because their identity and sense of self-worth come from what they can produce.  It can be measurable and provide a sense of progress, rewards, and accolades.  They can go in the opposite direction and do something utterly mindless like binging Netflix. 

We have a primal need for recreation and fun.  Hobbies and activities make us more interesting and creative.  They can build our confidence and contribute to breakthroughs. What pastimes did you have as a kid?  How do you still do them or return to them?  Also picking up a new hobby puts you in a beginner mindset and helps to cultivate your empathy because you may have been an expert in your field for so long and now you know what it is like to be at the beginning. 

13. Develop effective coping mechanisms.  Stress is unavoidable, so the goal for wellbeing is not necessarily to live in a state of perpetual calm because that is not realistic nor what this modern world delivers, especially to high achievers.  Instead, the key is to move from adversity and stress to safety, calm and back as seamlessly as possible.  A little bit of stress can be good for us, it is just when we are stuck in that stress for prolonged periods that does it do us harm such as increasing our hypertension and blood pressure.  We have a finite amount of intellectual and emotional resources, and stress takes up a big part of that bandwidth so reducing our time there can be incredibly valuable.

To deal with stress, you can develop 60-90 second resets to course correct stress.  They can range from a reminder to think about what you are grateful for, taking three conscious deep breaths, standing up and stretching, looking at a picture of your family, hugging your pet, reading some of your favorite quotes, or listening to an inspiring piece of music.  You want to do anything to interrupt the cycle.

It is great when companies can get involved to support this process.  As part of onboarding at Thrive Global, Arianna Huffington’s company, people are invited to build their reset activity.  And then before a meeting, somebody spins the wheel, and picks one to practice.  It is a great way for people to get exposure to different kinds of resets they can do and helps build community.  You get glimpses into people’s lives and what is important to them, music they love, movies they watch, pictures of their children, etc.  It is a good way to course correct and build social connections.  We want to be clear on how to move from that fight/flight state to a place of peace, strength, and wisdom, and having your preferred reset could be a great way to do that.

14. Create emergency plans.  List your top concerns that could cause you stress.  For example, maybe you are worried that your laptop might crash unexpectedly, can you create redundancy by having a backup laptop (an expensive option) or keeping your data in the cloud to access it and not disrupt your work easily.   Perhaps you know you have a big presentation coming up and it always makes you feel better to review how it went after so you might want to call a friend in advance to let them know you would love to chat after your presentation.  If you ever feel depleted or burned out, it is good to create a plan to deal with it way in advance while you are not in the moment, then it is just about following the steps.  For example, one plan can be, taking the day off, going for a massage, and doing something you enjoy like watching a movie, playing pickleball, or taking a trip somewhere.

15. Use a wellness wheel for consistency.  Wellness is the state of being in good health.  In advance, you can add your favorite wellness activities (shoot for at least 10), and then have a regularly scheduled time for those wellness activities.  This is helpful because you do not have to think about what you want to do at the moment, you just spin the wheel and go for it.  And if you are driven by adventure and excitement, the randomness can add another dimension.

Underinvesting in our mental and physical practices damages our chances for leading the most impactful life.  Many remedies can help, especially during the times when we are feeling most stuck or in a struggle.  Establishing routines in advance of when you need them will be your lifesaver.

QUOTES OF THE DAY: “The greatest weapon against stress is our ability to choose one thought over another -William James

There are many terrible things in my life, and most of them never happened.” -Michel de Montaigne

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 The next blog in this series 5/8 will focus on the emotional and spiritual realms for maximizing energy

As a leadership development and executive coach, I work with leaders to create effective personal energy management systems for themselves and their teams, contact me to explore this topic further.

Practices and routines for greater energy

Optimize Your Energy By Cultivating A Healthy Mind (energy management series 3/8 )

An important part of maintaining our energy is cultivating a healthy mindset.  When we look at our beliefs and promote the ones that serve us and discount the ones that do not, we show up more energetically.

Here are some things to consider: 

1.  Cultivate conscious leadership.  In the book 15 Commitments of Conscious Leadership, Jim Dethmer explains two kinds of leaders, those who operate above the line (from a place of love) or those who work below the line (from a place of fear).  If you are above the line, you have a mindset of curiosity and learning, and believe that you have the power to choose the life you want to create.  If you function from below the line, you are more interested in being right than learning, mainly see yourself as a victim, and believe life is happening to you; you are choiceless.  You think your happiness lies in external circumstances (situations and other people determining your happiness) rather than assuming you can design your path.

The first step to cultivating conscious leadership is self-awareness; at any given time identifying where you are in the moment without judgment or shame or trying to avoid being below the line because as Dethmer notes, 95% of all leaders spend 98% in that space.  It is more important to recognize that you are there and think about how you want to make a productive shift.  Spending time below the line is a life-draining and disempowering experience because you wonder why bad things always happen to you, and then it becomes a perpetuating cycle because bad things continue to happen.  This is compared to being above the line, where you are empowered and living life from a point of choice.  Your most important moments are now and your next steps because that is what you can influence.

2. Reframe your experience.  Epictetus said,  “it is not what happens to you, but how you react to it that matters.”  Reframing is when you have a different take on a situation.  For example, if you are assigned a task from your boss that you do not want to do, you can agree and feel resentful or you can reframe it by thinking, maybe this person needs assistance, and I have a great opportunity to help and advance my skillset in the process.  This is not about discounting reality but about generating additional interpretations which will make you better for it.  In the Happiness Hypothesis, Jonathan Haight said the reframe is key to happiness because it can give you a sense of well-being in minutes when you transform negative into positive thoughts.

3. Avoid rumination.  This term means to chew continuously and is how cows digest their food.  They chew, swallow, regurgitate it back up, chew again, swallow, and repeat.  For a human, it is when you constantly replay an unhelpful track in your mind, obsess over an event, and stress out with each replay.  For example, you and your colleague worked on a presentation, and your peer presented using “I” and not “we” language to give the illusion that they did all the work without your assistance, and you quickly get upset.  You could believe they did it purposely, tried to marginalize you, and instantly feel stressed, angry, and disappointed.  You leave work, head to the gym, and continue thinking about it.  You go home and tell your partner and share how unfair it was.  Each time you mention it, you prolong the negative feelings, and the next day at a team meeting, you erupt, and it devolves into an unproductive blame game.  Rumination is a killer to a healthy mindset and the thief of joy; it puts you in a sour mood, keeps you up at night, disrupts your ability to recover and recharge, impairs your executive functioning, and increases your chances of cardiovascular disease.  Similarly, co-rumination, where you get with a friend and take them through your loop while they are fueling you with the same negative energy may feel like a bonding experience in the moment, but it is unproductive because it stirs up tension in your mind and body.  It reinforces the perception that the world is an upsetting and difficult place with no power to change circumstances.  When you ruminate, it is like picking at a scab over and over again, it simply will not heal until you stop.

Here are some of the most effective ways I’ve found to address rumination:

A. Opt for reflection.  Reflection is more about gaining insight and understanding, rumination is about stewing in negative thoughts.  You can think about what the learning is and what you want to do about it.  You may conclude that a lesson you have from working with your coworker: the next time you ask them in advance how they plan to represent the work that gives you both credit.  You can take the initiative and offer to present it or divide the work where your coworker presents their parts, and you present your parts.  Reflection is powerful and productive because there is a way forward, it does not keep you stuck in your thinking, it keeps you expansive.

B. Create an action step.  You can frame the challenge as a problem to solve.  Identify what you are upset about and how you want to tackle it.  You may want to work backwards, think about what the outcome is and visualize that.  Then think about what you can do now and the most direct route to get there.  Returning to the example of your coworker taking all the credit, your desired outcome may be for you to share the impact of their actions on you and how it would be great for two things to happen.  You email them to set up a time to discuss how the experience impacted you and share your peace.  You can say, next time, you will be the one presenting or ask them to talk to your boss and set the record straight.  They can send a thank you email to the boss appreciating the positive feedback and how they worked equally hard and were crucial to success even though you did not present.  This is a more productive option than stewing and telling the person off.  When you supply an action step, think of one thing you can do (gain insight, adopt a new perspective, or have a conversation), then you can start to shift and feel better about the situation. 

C. Time box the worry.  If you cannot pivot to rest, repair, and recovery because you are still ruminating, you can schedule 15 mins. late in your day or in your work week to worry.  It is a brain hack because once you have scheduled time, it is easier for your brain to let go or dismiss it if it knows it will get taken care of at some point.   

4. Challenge thoughts and assumptions that are not serving you.  In The Work, Byron Katie explains how she suffers when she believes her thoughts so she employs a 4-step process to question her assumptions and promote the belief that there is joy in her all the time.  She asks:

1. Is the thought true?

2. Can I absolutely know it’s true?

3. What happens when I believe the thought?

4. Who would I be without that thought?  

Once she goes through these questions, she does the work to turn around the thought.  Sometimes, it is about letting go of something to make room for something else.  For example, if your boss emailed you and said you did not speak up in that meeting, you may think your boss is out to get you.  You may ask the second question but realize you cannot be 100% certain, and know that when you believe this, it completely demotivates you.  Without that thought, you would be somebody capable of addressing this situation productively.  After going through this process, you remain calm and set up a meeting to learn and discuss with your boss the context of that email.  You may learn another explanation, that your boss likes when you speak up because you add more value and can increase your visibility.  Believing that your boss has no faith in you versus your boss thinking you are not living up to your leadership potential makes a difference in your performance.  Breakthroughs happen when we challenge our assumptions because we have limiting beliefs we do not realize, they keep us playing small and in a box.  In the workplace, it is easy to spot some of these beliefs when teammates say, “that’s not how we do it here,” or “we tried that once, and it does not work in this industry.”  Also when people speak in absolutes and use words and phrases like “I should feel this way,” “I have to do this,” “I must win,” These are signals that people are putting themselves in a box.  Believing that you do not have a choice is one of the most common limiting beliefs; we hold ourselves back and operate with diminished energy when we do not confront these unhelpful ideas. 

To break this habit, make a list of your limiting beliefs and start to alter your language.  Instead of saying, “I have to do this,” you can say, “I get to do this,” and instead of saying, “why is this happening to me,” you can choose, “ this is happening for me because…”.  Who would you be and how would you act if you operated from this messaging?

5. Cultivate an “active and rest” and “strive and detach” mindset.  Including both active and rest energy are essential, it is like inhaling and exhaling.  Descartes savored his rest time, sleeping late, and sitting by a fireplace, reflecting, and writing until late afternoon.  Many struggle with balancing being a high performer, having big dreams, and working with their ambitions while also achieving success and being happy, and cultivating a sense of inner peace.   A great lesson on this comes from a Tibetan Buddhist tradition involving the creation and destruction of Mandalas (intricate designer circles made from colored sand.)  The term is Sanskrit, which means a container/circle of essence.  The Buddhist Monks work hard to create something masterful; they start by sketching a circle outline and then meticulously drop individual grains of sand to create a panoply of colors.  It is a process that can take hours and days.  When completed, they engage in a ritualist process of dismantling the Mandala.  They sweep up the sand and let it go into the ocean, symbolizing the transitory nature.  It is the concept of striving for something great and then being able to detach and let go; and allow the universe to do what it does because when you hold on so tightly to one thing, you cause yourself stress. 

6. Practice the Dichotomy of Control.  In life, there are always things in and out of your control and when you can categorize items in their proper place, you can free yourself from unnecessary heartburn.  The idea is to release energy around the things you cannot control like determining outcomes, and directing your energy on the things you can control such as your preparation and intentions.  For example, if you are giving a Ted talk, you can control what you write and how much you prepare to get ready for the moment, but you cannot control the audience’s reaction or how many views it will receive.  Save your energy for things that will move the needle, and be comfortable with the idea that whatever happens to things outside your control, it is ok; it is all part of the human experience.

7. Cultivate a strong identity beyond work.  Sometimes our struggles occur when we overidentify with one thing.  We may attach our entire self-worth to work, and then when we are experiencing stress at work, our world feels small and in disarray.  When we can foster a strong identity outside of work and have multiple sources of joy, it makes us more successful.  It is ok if work goes south because we have our salsa dance lessons, cooking classes, painting,  and other hobbies that satisfy us because we operate from our strengths.  We also have our loved ones that add energy to our lives.  We can better get through challenging times and transitions when we have many things in our lives to add small moments of bliss.

8. Cultivate authenticity.  When you are who you are in all realms of your life it preserves great energy.  In contrast, it takes a toll when you are happy and humorous at home and show up to work serious and strict.  Embrace who you are, if you are somebody who asks a lot of questions, do not entirely censor yourself.  If you know you are an introvert who gets easily overwhelmed at networking events, take some extended breaks so you can conserve energy and find ways to recharge.

For many of us, having a healthy and robust mindset does not just happen.  It takes intentionality and practice to promote excellent habits that will help us be at our best. 

Quote of the day:Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.” – Victor E. Frankl

Q: What are your routines for cultivating a healthy mindset?  Comment and share below; we would love to hear from you!

The next blog in this series 4/8 will focus on mind practices that will energize you.    

As a leadership development and executive coach, I work with leaders to create effective personal energy management systems for themselves and their teams, contact me to explore this topic further.

Which practices keep your mind strong?

For More Energy, Invest In Your Body (energy management series 2/8)

A crucial part of maintaining your energy is taking care of your physicality.  Simply, there is a mind-body connection, when you are in good shape, you feel great, and it takes intentionality and discipline to establish practices for maintaining your physical health.  How do you maximize your physical wellness first so you are able to contribute more effectively and easily?

Here are some components to consider:

1. Eating healthy.  Some people may not be aware of the types of foods they put into their bodies and the specific impacts on their energy levels.  Do you know which foods weigh you down and make you lethargic and which foods help you feel good and alert?  If you are unsure, you can work with a nutritionist to discover ways to eat healthy and maintain a balanced diet to be at the top of your game.  Simple changes like making sure you drink enough water throughout the day and a glass before a meal so you feel full quicker can alter how you show up.

2. Exercising regularly.  Having a regular exercise routine will keep your energy levels high and maintain your longevity.  The University of Vermont found that just 20 minutes of exercise can boost someone’s mood up to 12 hours.  You can do many things to promote movement and get your heart rate up.  

2A Gym routine.  Having a strength-building practice or taking classes can give you a great workout, introduce you to many kinds of exercises that help with cross-bodying training, and provide possible seeds for a new hobby to flourish.  It has the added benefit of being a social experience and can be incredibly motivating when you find the accountability to exercise together.

2B. Walking.  Walking is a great and simple exercise that keeps you active and sharp.  Many excellent leaders knew and incorporated the copious benefits into their daily routines. Thomas Jefferson talked about how walking helped with clearing his mind and being the object of his relaxation.  Similarly, Ernest Hemingway mentioned walking as a way to develop his best thoughts.  Because the nervous system only has a certain amount of bandwidth, walking is a great way to calm it down, even for 10 minutes.  A recent study shows that walking for 1 hour daily reduces the risk of major depression.  Doing it in nature is especially helpful because it reduces stress while increasing the ability to be more creative and have playful thoughts.  Attention Restoration Theory (ATR) “suggests that mental fatigue and concentration can be improved by time spent in or looking at nature.”  ART proposes that exposure to natural environments encourages more effortless brain function, thereby allowing it to recover and replenish its directed attention capacity.  Because you are in an environment with lower cognitive abilities, you slow down your brain, retrain it, use different parts, create more connections, and have better reflections.

2C. Practicing Yoga.  This exercise yields some of the best mental and physical benefits, such as relieving stress and tension, improving focus, managing difficult emotions, and unlocking creativity.  Physically, by practicing various poses, it builds strength, flexibility, and balance.  There is also the mental component of paying attention to what is happening in your mind when you are holding a challenging pose for too long.  With each position, your mind will react and it is good practice to choose how you want to work with that reaction.  It is about this beautiful balance of knowing when to strive with the right amount of struggle to be at your best and when to be at peace with where you are at any given moment.

3. Sleeping restoratively.  Having excellent quality sleep is one of the most significant differences you can make in your energy levels and performing at your best.  It is essential for your cognitive performance because when you sleep, you consolidate and retain all new information and learnings from the day, connect disparate pieces of information, and unleash creative problem-solving.  The toxins accumulated throughout the day get cleaned when you can rest.  This process is essential to keep your brain healthy and reduce Alzheimer’s.  Many people disrupt their sleep by having their phones next to them.  There are many things you can do to have better quality sleep.  For more on this topic, you can read my sleep series

3A Napping.  Napping for a short time can boost your mood and productivity and give you mental clarity, increasing your productivity.  Many people may feel like they do not have time for a nap in their day, but if 15-20 minutes can mean a supercharged next 2+ hours, it could be worth it to slow down to go faster.

4. Breathing deeply.  It is a great way to calm your nervous system and restore energy.  There are methods of breathing that can nourish your brain.  In Breath, James Nestor argues how we breathe matters and that there is a right and wrong way to do it. The right way to breathe can boost blood pressure, athletic performance, and balance our nervous system.  Nasal breathing (or inhaling and exhaling through your nose) is more proper and efficient than mouth breathing, which can be harmful because it causes the body to lose 40% more water.  Your breathing pace also matters; slow and deep are essential.  He mentions how 5.5 breaths per minute are optimal.  The most critical element is ensuring you take your time exhaling to get the stale air out of your system.  Many people like the Box Breathing method, where you inhale for 4, hold for 4, exhale for 4, hold for 4, and repeat.  Many Navy Seals use it to stay calm and focused during intense situations.  Buddhist monks use proper breathing techniques to lengthen their lives and reach higher levels of consciousness.

5. Partaking in regular self-care body rituals.  There are various things we can do to prioritize ourselves and take care of our body for a shift in energy and mood.  Going for a massage can be a relaxing feeling that calms our nerves, reduces stress, and restores our body, especially after any intense strain on it, such as prolonged exercise.  It creates peace and calm and sets us up for what’s next.  Taking the time to get a haircut, or going for a manicure or pedicure for our hands and feet can keep our bodies looking and feeling great.  Bubble baths with candles and music, saunas, and hot tubs can offer unique relaxing experiences. 

Taking time to care for your body matters.  It will contribute to your mental fortitude and keep you moving through life with higher energy levels.

Quote of the day: “No [persons] have the right to be an amateur in the matter of physical training.  It is a shame for a person to grow old without seeing their beauty and strength for which their body is capable.” -Socrates

Q:  What is your favorite form of movement, and how does it impact your life? Comment and share below; we would love to hear from you!

The next blog in this series 3/8 will focus on cultivating a healthy mind for greater energy. 

As a leadership development and executive coach, I work with leaders to create effective personal energy management systems for themselves and their teams, contact me to explore this topic further.

How do you take care of your body?

How Do You Optimize Your Energy? (energy management series 1/8 )

When are you at your best, where you are doing excellent work and showing up for others because you have a full tank of the right type of energy or fuel to get work done?  Many people drift through life unaware of their energy levels or how to harness them to thrive.  Yet, energy management and being intentional about keeping your levels high are keys to long-term effectiveness.  In The Power of Full Engagement, Tony Schwartz argues that it is more important than time, money, or any other kind of management.  

Here are some helpful ways to effectively manage your energy:

1. Get clear on the fundamentals.  Have you defined your purpose, values, vision, strengths, and goals?  These categories will set the framework for all other things to follow and will be an energy multiplier when you spend time on activities aligned with these pillars.

1A. Purpose & Legacy.  Purpose is your reason for waking up in the morning; it’s aspirational and has a movement orientation.  If money was no question, it is the thing you would do because you are intrinsically driven by it.  Too many people get caught up in the day-to-day that they become disconnected from what makes life truly worth living.  Spending too much time on work not aligned with their purpose can be a depleting experience. Tuning into yourself and what you deeply care about will keep your tank full.  One framework to capture your purpose is Ikagi, or in Japanese, the reason for being.  It involves 4 components:

·      What you are good at

·      What you enjoy

·      What the world needs

·      What you can get paid for

When you discover things that fit into these four quadrants, it can be an energy-building experience.

Another approach to thinking about your purpose is to think about your legacy.  What do you want to be known for 100 years from now?  Apple Executive Angela Ahrendts had a great answer, she said “somebody who uplifted others as a wife, mom, and leader.”  There is so much power in service.  Ralph Waldo Emerson notes, “To know that one life has breathed easier because we have lived…that is to have succeeded.”  Making others’ lives easier is a good guidepost for a satisfying life.   Once you are clear on your legacy, you can arrange your day to be in alignment and experience fulfillment as you live your purpose, even if you do not get to witness the impact.  A line from the play Hamilton captures this nicely: “What is a legacy except planting flowers in a garden that you never get to see.” 

1B. Values.  These are your motivators in life, the elements that you find most important and that drive you.  For example, if you value learning, you will spend so much time on that activity because it is something you care about and enjoy.  If you value adventure, the more you explore, the more energy you will have.  It also helps with decision-making because when you make choices in accordance with your values, it brings you greater happiness and peace.  Living your values is a great way to build energy and not expend it on trivial aspects.  

1C. Vision.  Do you have a vision for your life?  Where do you want to be 1, 3, or 5 years from now?  It is fine if you may still need to figure out all the details, but when you know where you are generally trying to go, it is an energy-building experience because you are taking meaningful steps in the direction that matters to you.  A common regret of leaders is that they wish they were not always so overwhelmed by the present that they spent more time thinking about the future. Take time to sketch where you want to go.

1D. Strengths.  Are you clear on what your talents are and how you deliver value?  When you operate from a place of strength, you can do your best work and produce more joy and vitality.  A Gallup study reveals people who use their strengths daily are 3x more likely to report having an excellent quality of life, 6x more likely to be engaged at work, 8% more productive, and 15% less likely to quit their jobs.  You will be drained when working from weaknesses and on tasks that are not enjoyable or even frustrating.

1E. Goals. What do you want to accomplish in the short and long term so you are living your purpose and moving closer to your vision?  How often do you set goals and make your activities align?  I sometimes conduct a goal audit with my clients who are depleted and do not know why.  When we list all the committees, task forces, or special projects they are a part of; they realize that they are spending more time on urgent than important tasks.  Their life is filled with energy-sucking activities.  Having clear goals will allow you to be more strategic about how you spend your time.  Decision-making becomes easier if requests on your time are not in accordance with your goals; you simply say no to preserve your energy.

2. Defining and measuring success.  A big part of managing your energy is taking time to define what success means to you.  Many people may not be conscious of it; they may be using a definition they received from their parents or society.  Is it having a lot of money, climbing the career ladder to land a fancy title at a big organization?  Is it about fame, power, recognition, and luxury? If this is the case, what’s the cost? If it means working 18-hour days and not seeing your family, would you still label that successful?  For others, maybe your definition of success is about running your own business, having a family, living a high-quality life, and doing work you love. Maybe it is about traveling the world and allowing places, people, and ideas to fuel your creativity. Only you know.

Whatever it is, you want to be clear on the underlining motive.  You want to be VP by 40, maybe that comes from your desire to achieve and feel validated where you finally believe you can be worthy.  It is common for many of us to have been shown love by how much we have accomplished so we move through life as an adult with that same script acquired when young.  Or, maybe your motive is about delivering more value.  It is helpful to tease apart your hidden motives and find the source because if you pursue the goal for the wrong reason or somebody else’s, you may end up lacking meaning and purpose, which can be an energy-depleting experience.  You will feel more fulfilled if your goal is more about service and impact. I had one client who had a lucrative finance career but lacked something.  When they got more in touch with their true intentions, they went into teaching and service and became much happier.

My first definition of success came from my parents who taught me to get an education and have a safe job with a pension; they prioritized security above all else.  Combining their penchant for job security and my love of learning, I saw teaching as the perfect first profession.  As I started getting more in touch with my entrepreneurial energy and considering starting my own leadership coaching and facilitation business, I battled challenging scripts loaded in me when I was young, I thought maybe I was crazy to give up something so predictable for a possible wild card.  My family at the time thought I was foolish, and that I should be content with teaching because I have a job for life, especially during global uncertainties.  Bucking pressure, I leaped and having had my own business for several years, I could not be happier and more alive.  I get to combine my values of learning, impact, service, growth, creativity, and entrepreneurship and spend my waking moments helping others achieve their potential and accelerating their learning and leadership excellence.  I dedicate so much time to the intersection of developing myself and others, and it is exhilarating.  I had to relinquish that definition of success for one that was more in alignment with who I was.  Wayne Dwyer said, “Don’t die with your music still in you.”  If I never took this risk, I would have been living an incomplete existence because I would not have that conduit to express and share my gifts.  When you speak your desires that are true to your soul, you get to live authentically, powerfully, and fully.

Once you have established your definition, you want to measure it.  I measure success by how many people’s lives I positively change and the energy-building interactions I have, and I get feedback through verbal and written validations, which signal that I’m on the track I want to be.  I also measure it by pursuing excellence and flourishing, meaning and satisfaction, striving and peace, and purpose and contribution.  When I am clear on those metrics, I can focus on playing my game and not getting distracted by comparing myself to others and their goals or what they do in their games.  

In 5 Regrets of the Dying, Bonnie Ware, a Palliative Care Nurse transformed her life by learning about the regrets of the people she cared for.  For many, they wish they had the courage to live their lives and not the ones others wanted for them.  Specifically, they had not worked so hard, had the courage to express feelings, stay in touch with friends, and let themselves be happier.  While some say comparison can be the thief of joy because you can make yourself miserable by desiring what others have, it does not have to be that way.  If you have an abundant mindset, you can be happy for others and appreciate your pursuits.  You can use comparison as a tool for learning and motivation and find joy in avoiding stagnation.

3. Establish work-life flow.  You can design your work life based on the fundamentals above and your definition of success.  Whether you call it work-life balance, work-life integration, or work-life flow, it is vital to think about the major categories in your life, such as family, career, health, finances, and play, and map it out to see how they would fit together, which will allow you to make better choices based on what you care about and how you want to spend your time.  Purpose becomes more essential when we contextualize it with the other aspects of our lives because there is usually this critical mix of dreams and duties.  And the goal does not have to be to achieve balance which is hard because it means all aspects have to be equal; it is about rhythm, flow, fulfillment, and being intentional about your choices.  Without this, you fall into default mode, where you are moving along but not being deliberate, and it is depleting.  Once you have identified those vital aspects, you can organize your time based on how much you want to spend on each category to feel vitalized.  What is the proper allocation to feel like you are winning at work and succeeding in life?  We feel incomplete when we can have significant accomplishments at work, come home and feel like we are not the family person we want to be because our significant other and kids tell us that we are never home.   Or when we are not exercising and eating well or doing the things that restore us because we are singly focused on work.

4. Setting morning and evening routines.  Athletes, musicians, and performers usually have a routine that sets the conditions for their best performance.  They may make sure they drink enough water, have a clear focus, and visualize what they want to do.  Similarly, we can have morning and evening practices that maintain our daily physical and mental energy.  What does your morning routine look like, and does it set you up on a high note to embrace your day?  Does it include waking up from 8+ hours of sleep, a healthy breakfast, time sustaining your soul through reading, listening to something positive, meditating, planning your day, connecting with loved ones, and other things contributing to charging your battery?  Similarly, how is your evening routine - do you spend time with loved ones, plan for the next day, do breathing exercises, listen to something inspiring, meaningfully connect with loved ones, read in bed, and be sure to get your 8 hours of restorative sleep?  How you start and end the day makes a big difference to your energy because it provides a solid foundation to go the distance and better deal with stress.  Too many people treat life like a sprint and aim to survive rather than having consistent habits that continually restore you.

5. Match your energy levels with the appropriate activity.  Being effective is not about doing more but being strategic in working and harnessing your best energy.  In When: The Scientific Secrets of Perfect Timing, Daniel Pink talks about the time of the day having a significant impact on our performance.  Most of us have a peak, troth, and recovery cycle, where we have the highest energy in the morning, dip in the afternoon, and then, experience a second wind.  If this applies to you, you should do your most demanding and best thinking during your peaks, such as writing and designing programs; your shallow activities, such as administrative tasks like sending emails during your troth; and having meetings and socializing during your recovery time.  You want to match your biological makeup to your work for maximum results.

Everybody is different, we just want to be in tune with how we are through the day because it matters in the quality of our thinking and decisions.  So, reading books about the importance of being a part of the 5:00 am club, where you wake up early to get all your work done may be damaging to you if you are not a morning person.  Research shows that most car accidents occur from 2 pm-4 when people are tired, and energy is low.  Judges are more likely to grant parole in the morning when their thinking is fresh, but as the day goes on, they are less likely to do it because it requires more consideration, they are fatigued so they choose a default option of no parole.  How we structure our day based on our energy will impact our performance and mindset throughout the day.

With intentionality, you can optimize your energy and live your desired life.  It all starts with taking the time to do the introspective work, being honest about your current reality, get clear on who you are and what you want to be doing that fills, and not empties your soul.

Quote of the day: “A person doesn’t need brilliance or genius, all they need is energy.” – Author Albert Greenfield

Q: What are your most energizing practices?  How do they map to your purpose? Comment and share below; we would love to hear from you!

The next blog in this series 2/8 will focus on investing in the body as a gateway to more energy.  

As a leadership development and executive coach, I work with leaders to create effective personal energy management systems for themselves and their teams, contact me to explore this topic further.

Manager your personal energy for great success